Ten Commandments for Relationship Essentials

Therapists often hear everything that goes wrong in relationships. Flipping the script, and having a list of how to make things go well can be helpful. Ten Commandments for Relationship Essentials

The following is a basic framework for relationship success. Post it in a prominent place in your home where both you and your partner can review if frequently.

  1. THOU SHALT protect the safety and security of thy relationship at all costs.
  2. THOU SHALT base thy relationship on true mutuality, remembering that all decisions and actions must be good for thee AND for thine partner.
  3. THOU SHALT not threaten the existence of the relationship, for so doing would benefit no one.
  4. THOU SHALT appoint thy partner as go-to person for all matters, making certain thy partner is first to know- not second, third, or fourth—in all matters of importance.
  5. THOU SHALT provide a tether to thy partner all the days and nights of thy life, and never fail to greet thy partner with good cheer.
  6. THOU SHALT protect thy partner in public and in private from harmful elements, including thyself.
  7. THOU SHALT put thy partner to bed each night and awaken with thy partner each morning.
  8. THOU SHALT correct all errors, including injustices and injuries, at once or as soon as possible, and not make dispute of who was the original perpetrator.
  9. THOU SHALT gaze lovingly upon thy partner daily and make frequent and meaningful gestures of appreciation, admiration, and gratitude.
  10. THOU SHALT learn thy partner well and master the ways of seduction, influence, and persuasion, without the use of fear or threat.

created by Stan Tatkin, PsyD