Emotionally Focussed Therapy reframes a couples’ conflict from finger-pointing and blaming to discovering the underlying needs and fears that result in conflict as exhibited in the negative interaction cycle. We all have need to be loved and appreciate. When the person we cherish the most appears to us as hostile or remote, it triggers a fear in us that we may not be able to effectively express. The EFT therapist helps to slow down the negative interaction cycle or dance and refocus the client on underlying feelings and cued behaviors. The old cycle is then replace with new bonding events.
Sue Johnson – negative interaction cycles. It’s a dance. To be in tune with another person takes a dance.
Connection – connecting you emotions, thoughts, behaviors. As an EFT therapists making explicit what is implicit. Lack of connection. Workshop help identify trigger.
Businesses – team building using The Cycle
Work relationships – EFT works on the basic principle that to change, people cannot leave a place until they have arrived. Clients therefore need to reclaim disowned experience before they can be changed by or change that experience. In this process, it is not that people simply discover things they did not know but rather that they become aware of and experience aspects of themselves they have not consciously felt or may have previously disclaimed, dismissed, or pushed away.