Emotionally Focussed Therapy

Emotionally Focussed Therapy reframes a couples’ conflict from finger-pointing and blaming to discovering the underlying needs and fears that result in conflict as exhibited in the negative interaction cycle. We all have need to be loved and appreciate. When the person we cherish the most appears to us as hostile or remote, it triggers a fear in us that we may not be able to effectively express. The EFT therapist helps to slow down the negative interaction cycle or dance and refocus the client on underlying feelings and cued behaviors. The old cycle is then replace with new bonding events.

Sue Johnson – negative interaction cycles. It’s a dance. To be in tune with another person takes a dance.

Connection – connecting you emotions, thoughts, behaviors. As an EFT therapists making explicit what is implicit. Lack of connection. Workshop help identify trigger.

Businesses – team building using The Cycle

Work relationships – EFT works on the basic principle that to change, people cannot leave a place until they have arrived. Clients therefore need to reclaim disowned experience before they can be changed by or change that experience. In this process, it is not that people simply discover things they did not know but rather that they become aware of and experience aspects of themselves they have not consciously felt or may have previously disclaimed, dismissed, or pushed away.
Based on emotion, attachment, and growth theory, EFT helps people identify which of their emotions they can trust and rely on as adaptive guides and which of their emotions are residues of painful memories that have become maladaptive to the person’s current context and need to be changed. With the help of the therapist’s empathic understanding and the use of experiential methods, clients learn how to make healthy contact with feelings, memories, thoughts, and physical sensations that have been ignored or feared and avoided. By accessing adaptive emotions such as healthy grief, empowering anger, and compassion, people are able to use these as resources to transform maladaptive emotions such as fear, sadness of abandonment and shame of inadequacy that have developed from past negative learning or traumatic experiences. (Sue Johnson)